''Aman ki Asha '' is a beautiful concept because we all live in hope . I read a lot of comments in TOI on Indo-Pak relations and found that some people are very bitter unknowingly and some are very sensitive towards the issue. Why I say ''unknowingly'' is because most of the time the comment is written without any thought. It is written because one wants to join the discontent wagon....basically following a herd. Very few people actually think and put down their own thoughts.

This is true even when you are writing a greeting for someone, very rarely will you find a message written from the heart, where people actually spare a couple of minutes to think what they want to write. How you send a greeting says a lot about your relationship with that person. Next time you want to send a greeting, spare a few ( a few) minutes , close your eyes and think about the qualities of that person and then compose your message, you will see the difference it makes . ''Par time kiske paas hai yaar !!!!....:-) '' Time hi toh nikalna hai nahin toh paisa kamane ki bhagdaur mein rishte peeche rah jaayenge...''

What comes to your mind when I say the word ''spontaneous''...''instant'' ???....well, don't you think we are losing that spontaneity in each one of us and instead adopting ''calculative moves ''....I have not seen people being spontaneous in a very long time, they hesitate before they react, ''should I or shouldnt I ?'' and you miss the boat....I think if we instantly react to a joke by laughing out loud because we want to, that would be called spontaneity....lets not lose it, lets not think too much about the reaction to our reactions ???? have you seen kids, how spontaneous they are and that's why so happy too.....they are innocent, lets not lose that innocence....try and see what difference it makes !!!! it will make you smile and your smile will make others smile and you will be happy....

friendship

I read somewhere ''You cannot choose your relatives but you can choose friends, that's why you end up bonding more with the latter" ....well, its true to a large extent....family is what we have been given on a platter and we can either nurture the relationship or look elsewhere....what do most people do ??? look elsewhere ! because nurturing takes time and effort and who has the time anyways ??? So, the easiest is to get hold of people with a similar mindset as ours and call them ''friends''.....these so called friends become the focus of our attention and family is put on the backburner , till one fine day we need medical or financial help and we seek the ones we got on ''platter''.....it becomes obligatory for family to help...''where are your friends???'', nobody dare ask.....
Agreed that all relations are a two way street but have we tried to tread one way at least or have we been judgemental before trying that this won't work?
My mother-in-law once told me that to nurture a kid from birth is as tough as eating the flesh on the palm of your hand....well, I agree with her because we did it, alongwith household chores, without having a maid to help like recent times....I think that holds true about relationships as well (this topic is very close to my heart :-))........if time and effort is put into nurturing relations at home , we will have friends around us all the time....''but'', it has to be a two way street.....one way street will not work at all....
Friendship is easy to create but very difficult to keep because the most common mistake people make is to take the other for granted....please treat all relations as if you are going to lose them tomorrow, so precious !!!! coz what if you were to lose one of them ????....
I hate to be taken for granted and with my actions make people know it too , though unsuccessfully most times, :-).......
please value relationships.....what if your parents had taken you for granted when you were born ??? you wouldnt have survived, so thank them each day !!!!!

Daughters are precious gems

This is an appeal to all parents who wash their hands off their daughter's welfare after she is married. A child, whether a son or daughter, is for life...notice the first signs of discomfort....be sensitive to your daughter's need to reach out to you if she is distressed and do not wait for her funeral to speak up against the torture she was going through just because you thought ''things may improve''....this is what I heard Neha Chikara's father say on TV last night ....the poor girl was beaten up and had to take the extreme step of jumping off a cruise into the sea to commit suicide.....since our judiciary is insensitive , its time that we as parents take it upon ourselves to fight against injustice being meted out to the girls in the society.....nobody has the right to physically abuse anyone.... how many of you out there feel that once your daughter is married the responsibility of her welfare lies completely with her in-laws ??? how is it that your overprotective attitude towards your little girl changes overnight to being someone else's responsibility ??? How callous can we get ??? The fact that she is now staying with strangers should make you overprotective till you are sure she is happy.....

welcome

Like raindrops I wish to emanate freshness in whatever I write, originality in thoughts is what I value and clarity in composing those thoughts into writing is what I aim for...